Bonding with your baby

Of course, most mums want to feel a sense of warmth and protection towards their newborn baby. But if you’re just not having those feelings, you’re not alone – around a third of mums in the UK might not experience these feelings immediately. Not having that kind of instant bond sometimes leads to feelings of disappointment, anxiety, inadequacy, and guilt.

Here we explain how there are things you can do to get to know your baby and help things to improve…

Understanding the Bonding Process

First and foremost, it's important to understand that bonding is a process, not a single event. It can start during pregnancy, right after birth, or even a few months later. Every mother and baby pair is unique, and there's no "right" timeline for feeling connected. Sometimes, the stresses of childbirth, expectations of motherhood, or even personal histories can affect this initial bonding.

Practical Tips to Enhance Bonding

Seeking Support

Remember, it’s okay to ask for help if you’re struggling with bonding. Talk to your health visitor, GP, or a perinatal mental health professional. They can offer guidance, support, and sometimes even refer you to therapeutic services if necessary.

Joining parent and baby groups can also be a great way to share experiences and tips with others who understand what you’re going through. Remember, you’re not alone, and it’s okay to take your time.

The Role of Aurora

At Aurora, we’re committed to supporting new mums through the myriad of emotions and challenges that come with motherhood. Our app offers resources, mindfulness exercises, and guided meditations specifically designed to support maternal mental health and foster the mother-baby bond. With Aurora, you can find a supportive community and resources tailored to your journey into motherhood.

Final Thoughts

Bonding with your baby is a unique journey for every mum. It can take time, and there’s no need to rush or force it. What’s most important is providing your baby with love, care, and attention — the bond will grow from there. And remember, seeking support is a sign of strength and an important step towards fostering a healthy relationship with your baby.